Fork In The Road

Change Your Paradigm – Going Off Script With Life

Change your paradigm There’s more to life than the American Dream we’ve been sold. In this series I present an alternative way to view the world and your surroundings. There is so much out there to experience, enjoy, and incorporate into our lives. It’s all there for the taking, but getting there is the hard part. In this series I show how to to change your paradigm to give yourself a fighting chance of taking the path less less traveled to live up to your potential. How you act on what you discover is up to you, but I hope you take your own plunge into a happier and healthier life.

Going Off Script With Life

Fork In The RoadDoes the following sound familiar?

I have to study hard so I can get into a good college. I have to get into a good college so I can get a good job after college. I have to get a good job to pay off my college debt and prepare for having a family. I have to have a family because life is too lonely otherwise and it’s what I’m supposed to do. I have to work as hard as possible at work so I can get a promotion. I need a promotion so I can earn more money so I can provide better for my family. I need to sacrifice today to provide for the future, like retirement and the kids’ education.

Never mind what I actually want to do. These are the things I have to do. And never mind the fact that I may not live long enough to actually enjoy the fruit of all this labor, or the consequences to my health from all of this stress and pressure.The script above is the traditional recipe for what is typically a “successful” adult life. You work hard, continually seek advancement and more responsibility, and raise a family somewhere in between. You could even say it’s a part of “The American Dream.” But do you pursue that recipe because it feels right in your heart, or because it’s the only recipe you know? Moms have a great saying, “If everyone else jumped off a bridge, would you jump too?” Don’t be a penguin blindly following the crowd off the cliff.

The script above may be perfect for some people, but if you are here reading this then you’re probably looking to go off script. If so, the chart below fits. We often let the passions and professions we develop in childhood and adolescence fall by the wayside for more “acceptable” and proven paths. The longer you live a life you aren’t passionate about, the farther the gap grows and the more dissatisfied you’ll be with life. The Happiness Plunge can be seen here visually, as you dive off the life path you are currently on to the one you actually feel passionate about.

dissatisfaction happiness plunge diagram

Don’t let the pressures of society drag you down a path that doesn’t fit with you. Pursue your passions and figure out how to create your own life. Question the status quoLive for today and Maximize experiences/minimize things.

The Happiness Plunge lets you get back to the core of what it is to be you – your core passions and purpose.

2 replies
  1. Catherine
    Catherine says:

    Awesome! Just what I needed today.
    I’m getting ready to take the plunge.
    It’s a little scary.
    I need to click all the links in this post, take a deep breath, hold my nose and jump!

    Thanks for the wisdom, Adam.


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